Missing smile

It has been a long time that I have visited my home and met my family. I have planned for a long weekend to go there. Meanwhile I was talking to one of my colleagues friend about my plan. We both belongs to same state, so I casually asked "what do you want me to bring for you from Gujarat ??". She replied very humbly " no, I don't need anything. You just go and enjoy with your family." But after that I was thinking what I could have brought for her. I was shocked of what I got in my mind.

Now just imagine the same conversation could have been happened something like following.

Me: "I am planning to go home next week."
She: "Ohh great, at last !, Enjoy your time with family."
Me: "Yeah sure, thanks. Between what do you want me to bring for you ?"
She: "Nothing much. Please bring some love and care from my mom, some anger and scoldings from father, and all the support from my brother. Please bring warmth of my home. And please do not forget to bring comfort of my bed. You act don't need to buy anything. You would get it all those things free of cost. I want taste of my mother's hand, as well that light fun of dining table. Those little silly fights with my siblings. And all those silent understanding, which we were sharing, when we would find our father, coming back to home. I hope it won't be too much for you to carry. Please bring as much as you can. I have missed all those things at home. I am missing that lovely smile on my face that i would get when I see my family."
Me: " :) " - Only a smile, because I had no words to speak. I just put the phone a side and went to bed.

Is it possible to get all those things for someone ? I don't think so anyone in this world can bring all those things. There are lots of people living away from their home for very minor reasons. It might be career, money or personal growth.

Above all those people who are missing such things. I would like to add one more category. There might be people out there, around you, who are not getting all these things even if they go home or meet their family. But they would not ever speak those things to anyone. As family matters can't be disclose to friends easily.

Everyone might not feel the point here. But there are lots of people out there who needs a little care and love to fill the blank. Everyone is not lucky enough to get that. But if we can give a little extra effort, the world can be full of love.

Horrific Accident

This might be the most horrible incident I have ever seen. I was returning back to home in early night. Many people were walking on both side of the road. As it was summer time. So public normally go for walking little late in evening. Suddenly I heard sound of sudden break and sleep of a bike on the other side of the road. I parked my bike aside and ran to the accident spot. An old lady fell down on the road, and the bike rider with the bike fell down 10-15 meter away from there. At the same moment, I called up Ambulance services for help.

That lady was totally unconscious at that moment. Many people gathered around there. Some of them asking to splash water on her face. I refused and stopped everyone to do so, As if she had brain injury, water might be dangerous for her. Some asked to shift her on sideway for traffic, but that was also not a good idea. So I asked them to wait for the Ambulance to take further action. Meanwhile I asked one lady standing besides me to check pockets of that old lady, for some identity proof or mobile. But we didn't find anything. As that lady was out for some walking exercise only. Now that was the worst part of the incident. As none of us knew that old lady, and we didn't find anything for identity. And suddenly she started vomiting, That directly indicated that she had brain hemorrhage. One lady cleared her face with handkerchief. Luckily after a long wait, Ambulance arrived and took that old lady with her at nearest hospital.

Returning to my home, I couldn't speedup my bike more than 20-30 kms. All the way, I just prayed for that lady. But I was thrilled when I thought of such scenario with my family. Just imagine that some of your family member went out for walking only, That member doesn't come for whole night. What would be your reactions ? What would you do when you come to know such thing happened to that member ?

Life is valuable. It might be possible, you do not value your life. But every person is very much valuable for their family. If you can't value your own life. At least do not ruin others' by your mistakes. I actually don't have words to describe the thrill at that time, but I tried little bit.

Father and Son

Recently I have been watching a movie name Lakshya. It is a nice movie to enjoy. But there were some specific scene that i got touched about. Hritik was always fighting with his father or we can say they both were not comfortable. That was also the fault of Hritik only. As he was not serious about anything in his life and His father wanted him to take something seriously. That was the reason Hritik always disliked his father.

The same scene i have observed in movie wake up sid. Ranbir was spoiled brat. He did not like the way his mother was speaking in English. He did not like his father's biz. Even he gave a try to it. He loved his father but just because of some fight with him related to results of exams. He left his home and family. 

In real life scenes also, i have noticed that children are more attached with their mothers. They normally share everything with their mother. And insist their mother to ask something to their fathers. As fathers are more of straight mind. They thinks of many things before taking any decision. And mothers normally take decision with the emotions to their child. So in such situations, children keeps fear against their father express love to their mother mostly. If the situation comes against them. They even fight with father. That is not because children don't like their father. But just because of the bonding between them are not too much emotional. 

I am not saying that father don't love their child. But just because father want to build his child. He don't express his feelings to him. Even in hard situation where child needs love. Father asks him to fight against the situation. But that doesn't mean father don't do anything for his child. He always work hard to provide all necessary things for his child. Father always keeps eyes on his child's behavior. Father scold his child for even small small things. That is just to build his child to stand on his legs in this world. 

But after all this, father is also a human being. He also has love, care and attachment to his child. Just he don't express all this feelings against his responsibility. This normally destructs this relationship.

But after a long time when person gets mature or after becoming father himself, one comes to know that how much his father loved him. How many sacrifices his father made after him. Mother is the most important factor that builds a child's future. But father is the base of the whole life of his child. Most of the things a child learns from his father's life, behavior, guidance. 

I am not being able to justify this article very well. I have not been so much good son up to now. As well this is the tradition of Indian families. But now a days family values are being changed. I am not pretty sure about the role of a father in new tradition and other cultures. Even this is not the case with "father and daughter  relation. It is a very different relation. 

One night a father overheard his son's pray "Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is." 

Later that night, 

the Father prayed "Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be."

Just got inspired by the scene in the movie Lakshya http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmjBFmuYYP8

No one in the world can take place of other one

When i was kid, i heard a lot about Sunil Gawskar's attitude and nature. He was a great person, in fact he is a great person ever. There has been an incident when one reporter has told Sunil that Sachin had takeover his position and he was being performed very well also. So Sunil have smiled and replied that "no one in the world can take place of other one". He was right at his place. When someone comes in place of other person, He makes his own status, his own identity or own importance. The place of previous person can't be affected.

But Time washes all mysteries. People were afraid of dinosaurs. Time passes, now they are in books only. Many beautiful birds and dangerous animals are not present right now. People, very rarely read about all these and then talk once and then forgets about them. All respects being washed with time. Recently i have visited Rajkot. Some statues are there e.g. Princess Zaansi, Indira Gandhi, Swami Vivekanand. None of them are being renovated or taken care of. People just reminds name of them, and the spirit spreads down on the earth.

I was talking about this topic with one of my friend. He laughed and said in case of relationship, once you come across someone, no one else can come in your life to take that place. And just after 5-6 minutes, he has started blaming some other friends. And i shocked that just few days back he was praising the same guy. Few days back situation was like he could not even live without the same person. He were used to tell everything and share each and every moment together. And now as per his point, the same person is not being able to understand him. The person is not giving him enough time. But as much i know that person still have the same feelings for him. As i know both of them very well. Now a days, he is used to share everything with some other friend who is understanding him very well (as per his point of view).

If no one can takeover other's place. Then how one person who is same, have not been changed a bit even, have been less understandable. How do the same person been liable to blame everything while nothing has been change between them.

Is it matter of time or matter of needs or nature ? If no one can take place of other one then why after marriage spouse starts crying on each other's shoulder instead of parents. Why after getting child a woman start satisfying her child instead of husband. Many people have more then one lover, Why don't they even think about older.

I am not getting any answer about all these. If life is all about keep changing then why do people keep promising. Why don't they look back and confirm that he has not broke any heart or he has not left any important place which can't be filled again by anyone else.