Missing smile

It has been a long time that I have visited my home and met my family. I have planned for a long weekend to go there. Meanwhile I was talking to one of my colleagues friend about my plan. We both belongs to same state, so I casually asked "what do you want me to bring for you from Gujarat ??". She replied very humbly " no, I don't need anything. You just go and enjoy with your family." But after that I was thinking what I could have brought for her. I was shocked of what I got in my mind.

Now just imagine the same conversation could have been happened something like following.

Me: "I am planning to go home next week."
She: "Ohh great, at last !, Enjoy your time with family."
Me: "Yeah sure, thanks. Between what do you want me to bring for you ?"
She: "Nothing much. Please bring some love and care from my mom, some anger and scoldings from father, and all the support from my brother. Please bring warmth of my home. And please do not forget to bring comfort of my bed. You act don't need to buy anything. You would get it all those things free of cost. I want taste of my mother's hand, as well that light fun of dining table. Those little silly fights with my siblings. And all those silent understanding, which we were sharing, when we would find our father, coming back to home. I hope it won't be too much for you to carry. Please bring as much as you can. I have missed all those things at home. I am missing that lovely smile on my face that i would get when I see my family."
Me: " :) " - Only a smile, because I had no words to speak. I just put the phone a side and went to bed.

Is it possible to get all those things for someone ? I don't think so anyone in this world can bring all those things. There are lots of people living away from their home for very minor reasons. It might be career, money or personal growth.

Above all those people who are missing such things. I would like to add one more category. There might be people out there, around you, who are not getting all these things even if they go home or meet their family. But they would not ever speak those things to anyone. As family matters can't be disclose to friends easily.

Everyone might not feel the point here. But there are lots of people out there who needs a little care and love to fill the blank. Everyone is not lucky enough to get that. But if we can give a little extra effort, the world can be full of love.

Father and Son

Recently I have been watching a movie name Lakshya. It is a nice movie to enjoy. But there were some specific scene that i got touched about. Hritik was always fighting with his father or we can say they both were not comfortable. That was also the fault of Hritik only. As he was not serious about anything in his life and His father wanted him to take something seriously. That was the reason Hritik always disliked his father.

The same scene i have observed in movie wake up sid. Ranbir was spoiled brat. He did not like the way his mother was speaking in English. He did not like his father's biz. Even he gave a try to it. He loved his father but just because of some fight with him related to results of exams. He left his home and family. 

In real life scenes also, i have noticed that children are more attached with their mothers. They normally share everything with their mother. And insist their mother to ask something to their fathers. As fathers are more of straight mind. They thinks of many things before taking any decision. And mothers normally take decision with the emotions to their child. So in such situations, children keeps fear against their father express love to their mother mostly. If the situation comes against them. They even fight with father. That is not because children don't like their father. But just because of the bonding between them are not too much emotional. 

I am not saying that father don't love their child. But just because father want to build his child. He don't express his feelings to him. Even in hard situation where child needs love. Father asks him to fight against the situation. But that doesn't mean father don't do anything for his child. He always work hard to provide all necessary things for his child. Father always keeps eyes on his child's behavior. Father scold his child for even small small things. That is just to build his child to stand on his legs in this world. 

But after all this, father is also a human being. He also has love, care and attachment to his child. Just he don't express all this feelings against his responsibility. This normally destructs this relationship.

But after a long time when person gets mature or after becoming father himself, one comes to know that how much his father loved him. How many sacrifices his father made after him. Mother is the most important factor that builds a child's future. But father is the base of the whole life of his child. Most of the things a child learns from his father's life, behavior, guidance. 

I am not being able to justify this article very well. I have not been so much good son up to now. As well this is the tradition of Indian families. But now a days family values are being changed. I am not pretty sure about the role of a father in new tradition and other cultures. Even this is not the case with "father and daughter  relation. It is a very different relation. 

One night a father overheard his son's pray "Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is." 

Later that night, 

the Father prayed "Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be."

Just got inspired by the scene in the movie Lakshya http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmjBFmuYYP8

Importance. . .

There is one servant at my home. He is visiting my place every morning, but too early for me. I hardly get chance to see him.

Just few days back, i got chance to have a chat with him.

Me : "How many children do you have ?"

He : "Sir, i have 2 boys. Both are going school now a days."

Me : "Great. You must have got married at early age ?"

He : "No sir. Actually we have tradition to get married at 15-18 years of age. But i got marry late."

Me : "Why ? didn't find suitable partner ? ;) "

He : " :) no sir. My father had expired when i was only 13 years old. I have one sister. So i preferred to get marry after my sister get marry."

Me : "Oh, that's good thought. What is the age of your marriage ?"

He : "Sir, 9-10 year."

Me : "Oh, i was thinking that you are quite young. What is your age ?"

He : "Sir, i really don't know. ."

Me : "Why are you joking ? What is your birth date ?"

He : "I don't even know that."

Me : "Man, that is really strange. Everyone knows at least their own birth date."

He : "Sir, i did not get chance to celebrate such days. So i have forgot it."

I got a small shock. How do one can forget his own birthday. One do need it for every documentation also. But after talking a little more. I came to know that he don't do documentation on his own. As he is illiterate. Then i have started my daily routine.

But i got some thought. There are many people in this world who don't even celebrate their own most special day. And on other end, people dance like anything on friendship day, valentine day, all other days which are not really meaningful.

Why do you need friendship day. Can't you share your feelings on any other day. Why do you need one whole, special, well defined day for such a generic task. Same thing applies for valentine day.

People need a reason to chill out. They can not do that in everyday routine life. This is nothing but a way to get off of the job, of all the burdens, way to step in some others life.

Live your life properly. You will get everything and everyone around you. You don't need some extra time for this nonsense.

This is just a thought, not against some particular person. Don't take it personal.

Way of living life

I am not philosopher, poet nor writer. I wrote this because mostly people try to fit the writer in one of the form, he writes about.

I have always tried to be a good person, a good friend, great support. I have never refuse anyone to help them out of any issues. Specially for all of them whom i do feel like mine.

But what about the end. At last everyone moves on forgetting about you. They just go ahead. After a long time when any of them meet, they ask only one question "Are you still there ?". In fact you didn't move from your position. But they don't see that moving object was not you but themselves.

This case mostly happens in relationship which can't grow beyond a limit e.g. fridends, lovers, coulleges. At the time they are with you. You would be support/importance of life. As soon as they step away. They make you object to discuss about.

I have been observing attitude of many people towards life. I want to talk mainly about two of them. Both do connected to each other but they don't know about it.

First attitude, You can be a person who is available for anyone. Specially for friends, their friends, relatives and their friends. He always stands for all of these for any problem. but what at last, when he sticks in some probelm, all of them become BUSY or unavailable as of time or for any of the reason they can't stand with him. Main thing they always give a stronge REASON (in reality they prove that they want to stand but !!!!!). But what about you ?????

Second attitude, you fix some goal, fight for it. You keep going ahead in a way. At last you get the goal, you become a welknown person. But what about people around you. You certainly missed their presence. As you were never asked for it. But they stood with you to support you in your journey, until they fed up. But what at last you just leave them as they were not present at the moment you get your goal. Is this what all about getting goal ?????

I am not sure about any of these attitude. I would be wrong. But i have seen people with these type of attitude. There are many other types of attitude people do have. I am not a psychologist who can give detailed study of them. These is just what i have seen around.

"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude."

Love

Love is purest element on the earth. It is a finest feeling to have in life. It's the strongest bind.

There are many factors in society which affects human life. That is where all love vapors. It is not love which diversify all human relations. But today's society, ahh sorry since years society, never tried to fall where love make them to, rather they are trying to stay in flow of society and religion or common human rules. They only understands what people are looking at rather to what they feel about.

This is not only problem with society but they don't want others to fall in too. Whenever and wherever anyone falls in, society either throws them out or just breaks them separate.

People don't willing to know what is it all about. They have never tried to understand where these rules came from. They knows that where they are living and what trends is there. No one knows who is pioneer of all these.

Truth of life

Recently I was watching the movie "Zindagi na milegi dubara". There was an incidence in movie when Farhan Akhtar had asked naseeruddin shah to speak truth. He had replied the following line.

"Sach hota kya he. Sab ka khud ka version hota he sach ka."

"What is truth, everyone has their own version of truth"

That left me to think of it after completion of the movie. It's perfectly true. Except all universal truth, all truth has it's relative reference. Law of relativity, all truth depends on its reference rather than matter of facts.