Missing smile

It has been a long time that I have visited my home and met my family. I have planned for a long weekend to go there. Meanwhile I was talking to one of my colleagues friend about my plan. We both belongs to same state, so I casually asked "what do you want me to bring for you from Gujarat ??". She replied very humbly " no, I don't need anything. You just go and enjoy with your family." But after that I was thinking what I could have brought for her. I was shocked of what I got in my mind.

Now just imagine the same conversation could have been happened something like following.

Me: "I am planning to go home next week."
She: "Ohh great, at last !, Enjoy your time with family."
Me: "Yeah sure, thanks. Between what do you want me to bring for you ?"
She: "Nothing much. Please bring some love and care from my mom, some anger and scoldings from father, and all the support from my brother. Please bring warmth of my home. And please do not forget to bring comfort of my bed. You act don't need to buy anything. You would get it all those things free of cost. I want taste of my mother's hand, as well that light fun of dining table. Those little silly fights with my siblings. And all those silent understanding, which we were sharing, when we would find our father, coming back to home. I hope it won't be too much for you to carry. Please bring as much as you can. I have missed all those things at home. I am missing that lovely smile on my face that i would get when I see my family."
Me: " :) " - Only a smile, because I had no words to speak. I just put the phone a side and went to bed.

Is it possible to get all those things for someone ? I don't think so anyone in this world can bring all those things. There are lots of people living away from their home for very minor reasons. It might be career, money or personal growth.

Above all those people who are missing such things. I would like to add one more category. There might be people out there, around you, who are not getting all these things even if they go home or meet their family. But they would not ever speak those things to anyone. As family matters can't be disclose to friends easily.

Everyone might not feel the point here. But there are lots of people out there who needs a little care and love to fill the blank. Everyone is not lucky enough to get that. But if we can give a little extra effort, the world can be full of love.

Horrific Accident

This might be the most horrible incident I have ever seen. I was returning back to home in early night. Many people were walking on both side of the road. As it was summer time. So public normally go for walking little late in evening. Suddenly I heard sound of sudden break and sleep of a bike on the other side of the road. I parked my bike aside and ran to the accident spot. An old lady fell down on the road, and the bike rider with the bike fell down 10-15 meter away from there. At the same moment, I called up Ambulance services for help.

That lady was totally unconscious at that moment. Many people gathered around there. Some of them asking to splash water on her face. I refused and stopped everyone to do so, As if she had brain injury, water might be dangerous for her. Some asked to shift her on sideway for traffic, but that was also not a good idea. So I asked them to wait for the Ambulance to take further action. Meanwhile I asked one lady standing besides me to check pockets of that old lady, for some identity proof or mobile. But we didn't find anything. As that lady was out for some walking exercise only. Now that was the worst part of the incident. As none of us knew that old lady, and we didn't find anything for identity. And suddenly she started vomiting, That directly indicated that she had brain hemorrhage. One lady cleared her face with handkerchief. Luckily after a long wait, Ambulance arrived and took that old lady with her at nearest hospital.

Returning to my home, I couldn't speedup my bike more than 20-30 kms. All the way, I just prayed for that lady. But I was thrilled when I thought of such scenario with my family. Just imagine that some of your family member went out for walking only, That member doesn't come for whole night. What would be your reactions ? What would you do when you come to know such thing happened to that member ?

Life is valuable. It might be possible, you do not value your life. But every person is very much valuable for their family. If you can't value your own life. At least do not ruin others' by your mistakes. I actually don't have words to describe the thrill at that time, but I tried little bit.

Being noticed

Today when I came back from office. One boy met me in lift. He had cricket bat in his hand. he smiled at me and made a posture of hitting six. I just suggested him the exact posture. We had some talk about cricket. After that, he asked how's my leg now. Suddenly I memorized that he is the same boy who asked me about my leg many days back. I met an accident, so had some injury in my leg. He noticed that at our last meet.

How strange !! Many of my friends knew about the same. But none of them have asked me about it after 2-3 days of the accident. But this kid who doesn't have any concern with me, had this thing in his mind.

Sometimes strangers gives you makes you feel better than your owns. It's not like friend's don't care at all. But sometimes some formalities matters at some level.

I don't have exact words to explain this feelings. But yes all small small things matters in life.

Jab tak he jaan

Tu jo saath he to har raat ek jashn he,

Teri surat se roshan subhah ki har ek kiran he.

Aaj jo tu nai to ye phool na khile,

Dhhundali si aayi subhah.

Jo tu saath he to sabse lad lenge,

Ek tere hone se puri duniya ko chhod denge,

Aaj jo tu nai to ye log,

Ye jahan hame yuhi akela chhod gaye.

Tu naa ja hume yu chhod ke,

Tu hi he mera jahan,

Meri jaan meri fiza,

Ab aabhi jaa laut ke,

Intazaar tera hi he,

Aur tera hi rahega,

Jab tak he jaan

Father and Son

Recently I have been watching a movie name Lakshya. It is a nice movie to enjoy. But there were some specific scene that i got touched about. Hritik was always fighting with his father or we can say they both were not comfortable. That was also the fault of Hritik only. As he was not serious about anything in his life and His father wanted him to take something seriously. That was the reason Hritik always disliked his father.

The same scene i have observed in movie wake up sid. Ranbir was spoiled brat. He did not like the way his mother was speaking in English. He did not like his father's biz. Even he gave a try to it. He loved his father but just because of some fight with him related to results of exams. He left his home and family. 

In real life scenes also, i have noticed that children are more attached with their mothers. They normally share everything with their mother. And insist their mother to ask something to their fathers. As fathers are more of straight mind. They thinks of many things before taking any decision. And mothers normally take decision with the emotions to their child. So in such situations, children keeps fear against their father express love to their mother mostly. If the situation comes against them. They even fight with father. That is not because children don't like their father. But just because of the bonding between them are not too much emotional. 

I am not saying that father don't love their child. But just because father want to build his child. He don't express his feelings to him. Even in hard situation where child needs love. Father asks him to fight against the situation. But that doesn't mean father don't do anything for his child. He always work hard to provide all necessary things for his child. Father always keeps eyes on his child's behavior. Father scold his child for even small small things. That is just to build his child to stand on his legs in this world. 

But after all this, father is also a human being. He also has love, care and attachment to his child. Just he don't express all this feelings against his responsibility. This normally destructs this relationship.

But after a long time when person gets mature or after becoming father himself, one comes to know that how much his father loved him. How many sacrifices his father made after him. Mother is the most important factor that builds a child's future. But father is the base of the whole life of his child. Most of the things a child learns from his father's life, behavior, guidance. 

I am not being able to justify this article very well. I have not been so much good son up to now. As well this is the tradition of Indian families. But now a days family values are being changed. I am not pretty sure about the role of a father in new tradition and other cultures. Even this is not the case with "father and daughter  relation. It is a very different relation. 

One night a father overheard his son's pray "Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is." 

Later that night, 

the Father prayed "Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be."

Just got inspired by the scene in the movie Lakshya http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmjBFmuYYP8

Muskaan

muskaan

muskaan aakhir he kya !!

hontho se bani chehre bhi ek abhivyakti,
dekhne jao to he sirf ek aam ishara.

par

dil se muskaan,
tassali de jaati he dusre k dil ko,
kisi apne k hone ka ahsaas de jaati he.


dekhne jao to he sirf ek aam ishara,

Par

fark to he isharo isharo me,
kabhi ye khaas ban jati he ankho se,
anshu se nam ankho se nikalti he,
to kabhi gusse se bhari laal ankho se.

dene ko to har koi de sakta he,
lekin, apne pyare logo ki muskaan ko tarsate he,


muskaan aakhir he kya !!


pyaar bhari aankho se nikali ek nazar,
ya apne pyaare logo ke dil ko 6une ki tarkib.
Jo bhi he, ek muskaan kaafi hoti he din banane ko,

Raah ki talaash

naa manjil pata he na raah,
chalte rahe he hum kisi bhi raaste pe,

naa dosto ne saath diya, na koi hum dum mila,
aakhir raasto ne bhi mod lekar, moonh fir liya,
hum ne to hamensha pyaar baant na chaha har mod par,
logo ne usi pyaar ka khilona bana k khel liya,

naa aayi samaj hame apne ya gero ki,
sab ko apna samaj ne ki kya galti kar di hamne !!
sab hi thokar maar chale.
kabhi duniya ki najro me to kabhi dil ke kisi kone me.

naa kisi ne suni mere dil aawaz,
bas apne hi dimag se natiza sunate gaye.
dil se aansu aankho tak to la na sake,
aur log berahem kehte chal diye.

naa hame ab he humsafar ki talaash,
naa humraahi chahia,
jindagi bas raah dikha de,
naa hi hame ab manjil chahia

Importance. . .

There is one servant at my home. He is visiting my place every morning, but too early for me. I hardly get chance to see him.

Just few days back, i got chance to have a chat with him.

Me : "How many children do you have ?"

He : "Sir, i have 2 boys. Both are going school now a days."

Me : "Great. You must have got married at early age ?"

He : "No sir. Actually we have tradition to get married at 15-18 years of age. But i got marry late."

Me : "Why ? didn't find suitable partner ? ;) "

He : " :) no sir. My father had expired when i was only 13 years old. I have one sister. So i preferred to get marry after my sister get marry."

Me : "Oh, that's good thought. What is the age of your marriage ?"

He : "Sir, 9-10 year."

Me : "Oh, i was thinking that you are quite young. What is your age ?"

He : "Sir, i really don't know. ."

Me : "Why are you joking ? What is your birth date ?"

He : "I don't even know that."

Me : "Man, that is really strange. Everyone knows at least their own birth date."

He : "Sir, i did not get chance to celebrate such days. So i have forgot it."

I got a small shock. How do one can forget his own birthday. One do need it for every documentation also. But after talking a little more. I came to know that he don't do documentation on his own. As he is illiterate. Then i have started my daily routine.

But i got some thought. There are many people in this world who don't even celebrate their own most special day. And on other end, people dance like anything on friendship day, valentine day, all other days which are not really meaningful.

Why do you need friendship day. Can't you share your feelings on any other day. Why do you need one whole, special, well defined day for such a generic task. Same thing applies for valentine day.

People need a reason to chill out. They can not do that in everyday routine life. This is nothing but a way to get off of the job, of all the burdens, way to step in some others life.

Live your life properly. You will get everything and everyone around you. You don't need some extra time for this nonsense.

This is just a thought, not against some particular person. Don't take it personal.

Aanshu

Bichhdate nai he, mil jaate he aansu jo ek aankho me.

6od jaate he, nisaaniya apni raaho me.

Vese to kai log raahe badal kar manzile dhoönd lete he.

Par raaho par apni nisaaniya 6od jaate he.

Mita to sakta he koi bhi nisaani aansu ki,

Par dil se us nami ko mita sake vo aukad nai zamane ki,

Vese to samay bhi mita deti he lakire haatho ki,

Lekin dil se jo mita sake aansu ko, taqat aisi kisi lakiro ki.

Way of living life

I am not philosopher, poet nor writer. I wrote this because mostly people try to fit the writer in one of the form, he writes about.

I have always tried to be a good person, a good friend, great support. I have never refuse anyone to help them out of any issues. Specially for all of them whom i do feel like mine.

But what about the end. At last everyone moves on forgetting about you. They just go ahead. After a long time when any of them meet, they ask only one question "Are you still there ?". In fact you didn't move from your position. But they don't see that moving object was not you but themselves.

This case mostly happens in relationship which can't grow beyond a limit e.g. fridends, lovers, coulleges. At the time they are with you. You would be support/importance of life. As soon as they step away. They make you object to discuss about.

I have been observing attitude of many people towards life. I want to talk mainly about two of them. Both do connected to each other but they don't know about it.

First attitude, You can be a person who is available for anyone. Specially for friends, their friends, relatives and their friends. He always stands for all of these for any problem. but what at last, when he sticks in some probelm, all of them become BUSY or unavailable as of time or for any of the reason they can't stand with him. Main thing they always give a stronge REASON (in reality they prove that they want to stand but !!!!!). But what about you ?????

Second attitude, you fix some goal, fight for it. You keep going ahead in a way. At last you get the goal, you become a welknown person. But what about people around you. You certainly missed their presence. As you were never asked for it. But they stood with you to support you in your journey, until they fed up. But what at last you just leave them as they were not present at the moment you get your goal. Is this what all about getting goal ?????

I am not sure about any of these attitude. I would be wrong. But i have seen people with these type of attitude. There are many other types of attitude people do have. I am not a psychologist who can give detailed study of them. These is just what i have seen around.

"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude."

Love

Love is purest element on the earth. It is a finest feeling to have in life. It's the strongest bind.

There are many factors in society which affects human life. That is where all love vapors. It is not love which diversify all human relations. But today's society, ahh sorry since years society, never tried to fall where love make them to, rather they are trying to stay in flow of society and religion or common human rules. They only understands what people are looking at rather to what they feel about.

This is not only problem with society but they don't want others to fall in too. Whenever and wherever anyone falls in, society either throws them out or just breaks them separate.

People don't willing to know what is it all about. They have never tried to understand where these rules came from. They knows that where they are living and what trends is there. No one knows who is pioneer of all these.

No one in the world can take place of other one

When i was kid, i heard a lot about Sunil Gawskar's attitude and nature. He was a great person, in fact he is a great person ever. There has been an incident when one reporter has told Sunil that Sachin had takeover his position and he was being performed very well also. So Sunil have smiled and replied that "no one in the world can take place of other one". He was right at his place. When someone comes in place of other person, He makes his own status, his own identity or own importance. The place of previous person can't be affected.

But Time washes all mysteries. People were afraid of dinosaurs. Time passes, now they are in books only. Many beautiful birds and dangerous animals are not present right now. People, very rarely read about all these and then talk once and then forgets about them. All respects being washed with time. Recently i have visited Rajkot. Some statues are there e.g. Princess Zaansi, Indira Gandhi, Swami Vivekanand. None of them are being renovated or taken care of. People just reminds name of them, and the spirit spreads down on the earth.

I was talking about this topic with one of my friend. He laughed and said in case of relationship, once you come across someone, no one else can come in your life to take that place. And just after 5-6 minutes, he has started blaming some other friends. And i shocked that just few days back he was praising the same guy. Few days back situation was like he could not even live without the same person. He were used to tell everything and share each and every moment together. And now as per his point, the same person is not being able to understand him. The person is not giving him enough time. But as much i know that person still have the same feelings for him. As i know both of them very well. Now a days, he is used to share everything with some other friend who is understanding him very well (as per his point of view).

If no one can takeover other's place. Then how one person who is same, have not been changed a bit even, have been less understandable. How do the same person been liable to blame everything while nothing has been change between them.

Is it matter of time or matter of needs or nature ? If no one can take place of other one then why after marriage spouse starts crying on each other's shoulder instead of parents. Why after getting child a woman start satisfying her child instead of husband. Many people have more then one lover, Why don't they even think about older.

I am not getting any answer about all these. If life is all about keep changing then why do people keep promising. Why don't they look back and confirm that he has not broke any heart or he has not left any important place which can't be filled again by anyone else.

Truth of life

Recently I was watching the movie "Zindagi na milegi dubara". There was an incidence in movie when Farhan Akhtar had asked naseeruddin shah to speak truth. He had replied the following line.

"Sach hota kya he. Sab ka khud ka version hota he sach ka."

"What is truth, everyone has their own version of truth"

That left me to think of it after completion of the movie. It's perfectly true. Except all universal truth, all truth has it's relative reference. Law of relativity, all truth depends on its reference rather than matter of facts.

Airtel - Dil ki baat bata kar to dekho

Nigaahe nigaaho se mila kar to dekho,
naye logo se rishta bana kar to dekho.

Hasrate dil me dabane se kya haasil hoga,
apne hoth hila kar to dekho.

Khamoshi se kab hoti he khwahise puri,
dil ki baat bata kar to dekho.

Jo he dil me use kar do bayan,
khud ko ek baar jata kar to dekho.

Aashmaan simat jaayega tumhaari aagosh me,
chahat ki baanhe felaa kar to dekho.

Nigaahe nigaaho se mila kar to dekho,
Dil ki baat bata kar to dekho.

one of the best ad by Airtel. No need to elaborate. Just go and watch the video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5pUpd5-wVo

Take Over

        Hi. Its been long I have written anything. I was bit busy with my professional life.

        When I was kid, I heard about Sunil Gawskar's attitude and nature. He was a great person, in fact he IS a great person. There has been an incident when one reporter told Sunil that Sachin had takeover his position and he has been performing very well too. So Sunil smiled and replied "No one in the world can take place of other person". He was right at his place. When someone comes in place of other person, he makes his own status, identity or importance. The place of previous person is not affected.

        But time washes all mysteries. People were afraid of dinosaurs. Time passes they are in books only. Many beautiful birds and dangerous animals are not present right now. People, very rarely read about all these and the talk once and then forget about them. All respects being washed by time. Recently I visited Rajkot. Some statues are there e.g. Jhansi ki Rani, Indira Gandhi, Swami Vivekanand. None of them are being taken care of. People just remember their name, and the spirit spreads down on the earth.

        I was talking about this with one of my friend. He laughed and said in case of relationship, once you come across someone, no one else comes in your life to take their place. And just after 5 minutes, he started blaming one of his other friends. I was shocked that just few days back he was praising the same guy. Few days back situation was like he could not even live without that person. They used to tell everything and share each and every moment together. And now as per him, the same person is not able to understand him. The person is not giving him enough time. But as much as I know that person still has the same feelings for him. I know both of them very well. Now a days, my friend shares everything with one other friend who understands him very well (as per his view). He used send SMS to that person about everything.

        If no one can takeover someone else place, then how the person who has not changed a bit even, has become less understanding. How do the same person been liable to blame everything while nothing has change between them.

        Our mom was understanding our each and every signs when we were baby, and now in all matters you say to your mom that she would not understand. Your father have took all the decision for you up to your college time, and after that why in many of the matters you don't even discuss with your father. Why after marriage your same brother or sister become irritating. Why after break up your old lover becomes bitch and second one becomes angel. In none of the above cases, the person has changed.

        Is it matter of time or needs or nature ? I am not getting any answer about this. If life is all about change then why do people promise. Why don't they look back and confirm that they have not broken any heart or not left any important place which can't be filled again by anyone else.

“The beautiful thing about learning is nobody can take it away from you.”

Be Flexible

It’s been long I thought about this. At the time I joined my collage, one of my well wisher gave me advises to be flexible in all terms. His main point was towards the technology I work upon. But I took that advice very seriously and implemented it in all aspect of life.

Today I am doing a job in a fixed technology. But in life I am so much flexible that I don't even know that what I was. I have never thought about it. But today I went for smoking and I started an unusual brand. So shopkeeper asked me why is this? So I replied that I have throat infection so. He just laughed and said "activa nai to aviator(i bought new scooter), gala kharab he to lights, achha he".

I just shocked what I m doing. And I started thinking about it. I was very frank and fun loving person before. After completing my college, I have never stand for anything that I would to prove my existence. I have been keep changing myself for the sake of something those are not much important life. I have never changed myself to go ahead in career but to go ahead in relations. Some of my classmates are settled very well now. But they are so practical that they don't even care about others.

I have never wanted to see myself as a very powerful person. One who can change existing flow of any firm or one who is owner his own company.

But at some level it seems like. Nothing would come with you. Some fights for ego, some for self-respect, some to always prove their selves true. But nothing would go with them. And nothing is more important than life to keep moving.

I don't have ego problem or self-respect problem. But I am too lazy to fight for anything that I manage with alternate.

After such a long time, I m realizing that doing so I lost myself. Right now I m what my well-wishers want me to be(and its also have not been 100%).

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”

Every relationship has an expiry

I recently heard this line "Every relationship has an expiry". It made me think about for a while that is it really true. But it seems like, not only relations but each and everything around us has an expiry. It sounds funny but many mobile sim providers gave life time validity scheme, but after activating that, one can realize that it is up to 20-30 years only. I know it as I am having it in my Airtel mobile.
I am not being pessimist, but nothing is going to be with you for lifetime, not parents, not brother or sister, not friends, not the thing that you love the most. Have you ever heard that a person’s pyre have been consisted of all of favorite things or loved ones.

I think the sentence that "Everything that has a beginning has an end" is true also. Everything is connected. Everything has a goal including human. Sometimes some cannot realize it but ultimately travels to the end. The thing that differs from person to person is the way they travel and the way the end takes place.

When I discussed this topic to some of my close friends, One told me that “dude, you are right, there is one expiry date for each and everything. But can you tell me who defines this date.” For a time being I couldn’t answer his question. Then I thought about it. In case of other things, many science factors affect this date. So please excuse me, I m little bit poor in science. But in relationship, this date can’t ever be predefined. We, people define it as per our need. We break relations. There are many reasons why one breaks relation with someone. I don’t need to give you the list of reasons. But the truth is, the expiry date of any relation is defined by person involved.

Another point, I got in my mind is that in relationship I have never seen any tag like “best use before” or “expiry date:” then why after some time it expires so suddenly. And why after expiration everyone gets reason for that. If it is reasonable then why can’t you define it before starting it? Yeah I know some relations are by born and some are by law (in-laws). What about other? I don’t know its answer or probably can’t speak it out here.

I have a very little experience of relationship, but I learned one thing. People may stop talking to you, may avoid you, may be insult you, but they won’t ever forget what you make them feel.

“No one is worth your tears, but once you find one that is, he won't make you cry”

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Special Thanks

It’s been a long I write anything. It’s not because I didn’t get anything to write but just I couldn’t write as of time. The articles I wrote before contain totally negative thoughts. Many of my friends read them and scolded me that what is this, why are you writing like this. But they couldn’t make me to write positive instead I stopped writing to wait for positive thoughts. But I failed.

I just realized how life changes. “6th January”, my birthday, just one year back, there was a time my friends were with me and they didn’t let me sleep for whole night and day, not to just to celebrate my birthday but it was my last birthday of college time. I won’t ever forget that day. Few days back “31st December”, New Year day, all of my friend were drunk. We watched movie sleeping on one bed, Ohh I think we didn’t watch the movie but laptop completed its job to execute the whole movie code and then to be shut down automatically. We were habituate to watch each and every movie however it is.

You may murmur why I am writing this all here. Just some days back one of my birthdays passed. I didn’t even realize that it was an important day of my life. I couldn’t even celebrate it the way we were. It’s not like that I didn’t have company or I didn’t have enough time to do all those things. But it is matter of lifestyle.

One year back I was a student. I was used to drive bike like race, play games wherever I want, open computer cabinet without reason, to drink whisky in open street, to smoke in hostel room, to laugh loudly anywhere I like to, to pass whole day sitting at tea stole as well whole night, to fight with anyone with whom I get angry, to sit in front of computer for whole night playing game, to bunk the classes and go to canteen to sit with the professors, to complete extra assignment given because of low attendance, to beg to HOD not to call up parents. This list is long but not contains all that we did. No list can contain all the things you do in life time. But point here is I can’t do any of the above things now in my life. I am a responsible employee of a reputed IT industry.

Now a day I am not driving bike that much fast. If some day I get more frustrate then and then I drive fast. My office computer is facing some problem, but I can’t do anything with it. Everyone around smiles to each other like they are family, but even on a good joke no one laughs loudly so I. Now the word Canteen, night life, bunk and attendance don’t have any existence.

This article is totally dedicated to all my friends who spend their time with me doing all those useless things. Friends don’t forget each other just not because of bond, but the time they spend together is always unique. And new friend can come into your life; they may share time with you better than old. But no one can take others'.

Thanks you to the all of my friends to share such a great time with me. This includes current friends (colleagues) also.

Move On

move on, move on
the only tale, I'm hearing from birth.
i taught, I forced
Everyone around me learned,
and leaving me, they moved on.

i fallen in love,
the only thing i could see around
was love, and her,
she grown, she learned, she left,
and leaving me, she moved on.

i grown, made friends,
i shared, lived and passed my life
with them, helped them,
As the time passed they left,
and leaving me, they moved on.

Now i know, fault was mine,
the only thing i need is
to break my habbits,
And to learn to move on,
the only thing that i can't learn is to
move on

Alone But Who?

Sacrifice washed away into the lie into the evasion, what i did was just b'cuz i don like to see you alone Sacrifice scattered in my life in my thoughts, I could not collect it and it made me alone now i see that sacrifice didn't make u smile didn't relax you, but it made me away from you, n made me alone now i realised it wasn't you its me who was alone ever, standing in the crowd in party, its me who was alone n will remain ALONE